Hypersexuality in men - where the norm, and where the disorder

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The concept of "overexcitation in men" can be viewed from two points of view: strong (temporary) situational sexual desire, which in the absence of execution leads to painful sensations, and ever -increasing libido (satiriasis, hypersexuality). In the latter case, sexual arousal remains not lost after ejaculation and significantly worsens the quality of life: the man is unable to concentrate on any activity, nervous, depressed. Such hypersexuality, in fact, is similar to priapism - an unreasonably painful erection that does not subside after ejaculation. The reason can be physiological and psychogenic.

Causes and symptoms of hypersexuality

In young men, frequent sexual arousal, up to spontaneous ejaculation, is normal, due to increased testosterone levels. This is what is called puberty hypersexuality. The main symptoms are:

  • Sense of genital enlargement ("egg ringing");
  • Increased sensitivity of the erogenous zone;
  • Intermittent fever, sweating;
  • Increased urination, often accompanied by aching pain in the lower abdomen and lower back.

Urologists usually do not care about hypersexual complaints if they come from young patients. Doctors send them to a psychologist, but only if they prescribe a test for a genital infection.

Abnormal hypersexuality can be congenital (primary) or acquired. Congenital forms of hypersexuality can be associated with pathology of the central nervous system, endocrine disorders and mental disorders. The acquired forms are divided into physiological and pathological. In the first case, the increase in sex drive can be due to stress or high testosterone levels in the blood.

This form of pathology, as a rule, develops against the background of organic pathology of the central nervous system. They are provoked by:

  1. Nerve infections (encephalitis, meningitis).
  2. Head trauma.
  3. Vascular lesions and brain tumors.
  4. Intoxication caused by alcohol or drug use.

Hypersexuality in adulthood can be caused by endocrine disorders - excess stress hormones or testosterone (caused by hyperfunction of the testicles or adrenal cortex).

Neurotic hypersexuality develops based on feelings of low self -esteem, lack of confidence in male solvency. The constant desire for sexual intercourse in this case is an unconscious attempt to prove to oneself and others that there is no problem with intimate life.

An increase in neurotic hypersexuality can occur in men of retirement age during the period of extinction of sexual function. In this case, the reason is the subconscious desire to "stay in line", to make up for what may have been lacking in youth.

The difference between normal and pathological hypersexuality

The boundary line between hypersexuality caused by a strong sexual constitution and provoked by pathological conditions is arbitrary. Some men need sex every day and more than once. It is normal if the process brings pleasure and satisfaction, and professional, creative and social activities do not suffer (needs structure developed). In this case, we can talk about high levels of vital energy, and not about pathological excessive excitement.

Natural primary hypersexuality may be due to genetic traits. Men whose fathers are sexually active are more likely to follow in their footsteps.

Satyriasis is an obsessive painful sex need that is almost impossible to get rid of. Over time, such men tend to commit sexual misconduct, as normal relationships become too bland for them. Almost no time is given to other aspects of life. Such hypersexuality can be delusional or manic. The latter form is more difficult to correct.

The physiological symptoms of hypersexual in adult men are similar to those of puberty:

  • Prolonged erections even from fleeting, fantasy erotic images;
  • Premature ejaculation;
  • Exciting sensation in the lower abdomen.

The significant difference between pathology and norm is that men with a strong sexual constitution can quickly switch to other types of activities (work, daily life) immediately after meeting their physiological sexual needs. Pathological hypersexuality makes you really immediately look for the possibility of new sexual intercourse.

Anxiety and testicular pain

Pain in the testicles due to unnoticed sexual stimulation occurs in many men, not necessarily hypersexuals. The level of discomfort is different for each person. The pain can be so severe that it is difficult for a man to walk. This is due to excessive blood flow to the genitals, which leads to pinching of the nerve endings. It is enough for the patient to rest, or use an anesthetic or antispasmodic agent.

The cause of pain when overly excited can be a varicocele or a genital infection, the activity of which weakens the testicular tissues, disrupting their normal structure. If the symptoms appear frequently, you should consult a urologist.

If, by being overly excited, discomfort in the groin is already clearly felt, then masturbation or sex will not bring relief. On the other hand, orgasm can be blurred and ejaculation can be very painful. The pain will be felt for about two more hours, and in some men it will not subside for several days. You can relieve discomfort with aspirin. An infusion of mint will help soothe smooth muscles.

The only way to avoid pain is to avoid too much stimulation. If you have a date without intimacy, but sexual affection is not excluded, then it is better to ejaculate first. It sounds weird, but this option is better than that because of the "rollback" to experiencing many hours of acute pain, which is completely turned off from normal life.

Other hypersexual problems

Increased anxiety in men, the inability to control the level of sexual desire can be a serious problem. With any provocation, including in public, an erection occurs, which can be difficult to hide.

Often absurd situations arise: excessive sexual excitement during foreplay (often accompanied by the release of lubricant from the Cooper’s glands) ends with the penis falling off during introduction or premature ejaculation even before that.

Hypersexuality prevents you from focusing on important work issues. Such men are unable to concentrate, show initiative, which is why they often lose promising jobs.

How to get rid of obsessive hypersexual

Treatment for hypersexuality depends on the cause. Physiological factors need to be eliminated first. To do this, you should start with a visit to a urologist, make sure there is no pathology of the reproductive system, check hormone levels. A neuropathologist (neurologist) will help identify problems with the brain and spinal cord.

Psychogenic hypersexuality is addressed by psychologists-sexologists. You can help the patient only if he himself is aware of the problem and wants to get rid of it. The choice of method depends on how rich a man's intimate life is, in what way, besides sex, he can enjoy, what efforts he is willing to do for treatment. If the patient is unable to concentrate and interact with the psychologist, hypnosis is used. In parallel with psychotherapy methods, if necessary, antidepressants, sedatives and hypnotics are prescribed.

What to do at home

Sexual arousal can haunt from morning to evening. If hypersexuality is not caused by physical pathology, then you can try the following methods to reduce it:

  1. Take a cold shower, empty your bladder, or do your daily activities. Keep in mind that morning erections are a common phenomenon, a sign of the absence of vascular impotence.
  2. It is advisable to take all your free time during the day. Endurance training (moderate cardio, low weight repetitions) can help relieve sexual tension. Exercises with heavy loads, squats, working on mixing and leg raises, in turn, will lead to genital activation.
  3. Before bed, it is advisable to take a sedative so that psycho-emotional activity begins to slow down.

You can try to overcome hypersexuality with the help of decoctions of sedative herbs or pharmaceutical herbal preparations. It is important to consider that such funds, in particular valerian, begin to work only after a few days of regular use (cumulative effect).

If hypersexuality is provoked by alcohol or drug intoxication, then without getting rid of bad habits, the situation cannot be corrected. You can help the body with the removal of toxic substances by taking enterosorbents.


Too excited, hypersexuality is worse than decreased libido. In the latter case, many men live a full social life, achieve success in professional activities, do not pay much attention to the lack of sex. Dependence on it makes a person emotionally (and subsequently physically) disabled. True hypersexuality rarely develops. Basically, men themselves cultivate in their minds the need to enter into sexual intercourse. Such thinking is cultivated by a particular information environment, the environment. Experts believe that the higher the level of intellectual development, as well as the level of employment of a person, the less likely it is to develop any type of mental addiction.